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Religious Bravado Denies Reality of Death
As a hospice chaplain, I am required by my employer to carry a few specific things in my car. For instance, KN-95 masks, hand sanitizer and even a CPR resuscitation mask.
However, the most important piece of equipment, in my opinion, is something issued to me during my military career. Soldiers called it the BS detector.
Yes, I said it. But for the purposes of this spiritual column – and for my mom – let's call it my "bull poo" meter.
While my hospice-chaplain job most often requires quiet and reflective listening, it sometimes requires a good BS gage.
Fortunately, the meter was working well last week when a colleague began telling me why she wasn't getting the COVID vaccine.
"My body is a temple," she said, hinting at 1 Cor. 6:19-20. "I don't put junk in my body."
The nearby M&M's jar was screaming a different story.
Then she added with a wink, "We're both Christians. We don't fear death, right?"
Wait. Did I hear that right? Was she telling me that she's not afraid of dying from COVID, but the vaccine scares her?
I mean, if you're going to heaven, what difference does it make what sends you there? The exchange sent my poo meter pegging into the red. The thing nearly overheated and may have to go into the shop.
I wanted to yell, "B.S. Of course you're afraid of dying! Everyone is."
The truth is that the fear of death can be a gift in at least three ways.
1. It gives us an awareness of our fragility and keeps us safe within life's speed limits.
2. When we acknowledge that life has a deadline, pun intended, we increase our intentionality toward finishing our life's goals.
3. Finally, it has been said that man is the only creature who is able to anticipate his own death. If that's true, we should be inspired to seek a passion for living beyond the mundane.
There was no question that this woman feared death as we all do. But instead of admitting it, she simply turned on her religious bravado to deny a common fear. And that just doesn't pass the sniff test.
If you aren't afraid of dying, you're resisting your humanity. I've been at the bedside of many individuals facing death, and few have ever said they were glad they were dying.
Most of them expect a physical and spiritual pain to accompany dying. They are afraid and will tell you they don't want to hurt. They don't want to feel alone. They don't want to feel their legacy will be forgotten.
So rather than to deny their fear, the spiritually healthy will affirm their faith and confidence in what happens after this life. They know how to release the fear as they reach for heaven.
For those practicing the Christian faith, I remind them that even Jesus feared death. He begged his heavenly father to "let this cup pass from me."
Jesus wasn't being a coward or unfaithful. He was being a real human. He was admitting that crucifixion scared him. So, he asked God, "Isn't there another way?"
Jesus had a healthy fear of death in that he knew death wasn't the problem. The challenging part is how we choose to push past our fear of death toward the things God has for us to do in this life. In fact, most often we refuse to even think of death in order to not think, experience or acknowledge the fear
Unfortunately, I walked away from my colleague's desk last week too afraid to tell her any of this.
I guess fear is a common theme that runs through all aspects of life.
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Chaplain Norris' books are available at www.thechaplain.net. Contact him at comment@thechaplain.net or 10556 Combie Rd. Suite 6643 Auburn, CA 95602 or voicemail (843) 608-9715. Twitter @chaplain.
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Editors
Apparently the address I've been giving for the past two years is one digit off.
Please correct future publications to reflect;
10556 Combie Rd
Suite 6643
Auburn CA 95602
United States
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Editors: This copy corrects the spacing of the song in the last graph.
I HOPE YOU (CAN) DANCE
Seven years ago, I planned a special cruise-ship dinner during which I'd tell my wife I was retiring from the USAF.
I enlisted a photographer to record her tears of joy when I surprised her with my retirement orders. I wrote about that touching moment in 2014, but I left out the sweetest part – when I asked Becky onto the dance floor.
Before I say what happened next, let's get something straight – I CANNOT DANCE.
I'm rhythmically challenged. I hear the music in my ears, but it never finds my feet.
It's not that I won't shimmy. It's that I can't.
I don't hip or hop. My boots don't scoot or boogie. I only skip and trip.
My cadence deficit can be traced to a Kenny Loggins observation: "Your mama don't dance and your daddy don't rock 'n roll."
They sent me to a Baptist college where dancing was banned. Back then, Baylor University didn't use the D-word, so fraternities hosted off-campus "foot functions."
School president Robert Sloan rescinded the ban in 1996 but cautioned students against being "obscene or provocative." Perhaps he believed the old joke that Baptists don't make love standing up because it might lead to dancing.
By the time I graduated in 1979, the die was cast. I would never learn to dance.
Nevertheless, 300 miles into the Labrador Sea on my retirement cruise, I felt the Holy Spirit bestow upon me the gift of dancing. I said to the DJ in my best Dobie Gray impression:
Give me the beat, boys, and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock 'n' roll and drift away
Don't worry, no one actually heard me say that, least of all Becky.
But when the music started, I adjusted the cummerbund of my military dress tuxedo and slid onto the dance floor like the Energizer Bunny, hips swinging, arms flinging, lips singing.
I remember the moment as "sweet." However, Becky stood frozen on the sideline, her mortification amplified by the stares of onlookers. She saw my arms and feet moving as if possessed by a disco demon.
Pleading, she whisper-yelled: "Please stop!" No one heard her, least of all me.
Her shock reminded me of when King David danced naked before the Lord in 2 Samuel 6. (Actually, Dave was only "half-naked" in his skivvies.)
Still, his actions brought out the dance critics who complained David was "exposing himself to the eyes of the servants."
David replied, "In God's presence I'll dance all I want! … Oh yes, I'll dance to God's glory—more recklessly even than this. And as far as I'm concerned…. I'll gladly look like a fool."
These days, when I hear music, this old Baptist bod still wants to move. I don't care if it's country, rock and roll or hymns – music that "just soothes the soul," Bob Seger said.
Yes, I may drift too far or miss the beat, but I've discovered that music isn't born of the feet, hips or arms. It's born of the soul. It's born of the heart. It's truly spiritual.
That's why I leave you today with spiritual advice from Lee Ann Womack's "I Hope You Dance," by Tia Sillers and Mark D. Sanders
If you know it, sing along and sway those hips.
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance...
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